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Dave Levac
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Andrea Moore
Teacher

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Who Do We Help  / Facts About Bullying / Community Team /
Commitment Card / Cyber Bullying / YES Programs / Glossary 

How does STOP Bullying Today help kidz???

We are here to contact at anytime to help answer questions and give contact information for services that can help you…….We are hear to listen and let you know that someone cares!

We want to hear from: The bully, the victim, the bystander and parents.

We are dedicated to keep our information up to date and willing to assist…..we work with many referral services in different areas that are

prepared to help with your specific situations.

We have the specialists on staff to address your concerns and help through our workshops….to find out more about how to get involved in our workshops look at our services pageor email us at info@stopbullyingtoday.com

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1. What is a bully?

A bully is someone who uses his or her own power to hurt another person.

2. What are the forms of bullying?

Verbal – name calling, teasing, etc.
Physical – hitting, kicking, etc.
Psychological – instilling feelings such as loneliness, anxiety and fear
Cyber – through email, instant messaging, internet chat rooms, etc.
Racist – racial slurs or jokes making fun of culture or tradition. 
Sexual – involves unwanted physical contact or sexually abusive or 
inappropriate comments.

3. What is the root cause of bullying?

The emotion anger based on a form of hurt is the root cause of bullying.

4. How do I know if I suffer from Anger?

A bully is someone who uses his or her own power to hurt another person. The root 
cause of someone choosing to bully is “ANGER”. If you see yourself demonstrating 
the behaviours listed below you shouldconsider speaking to a counselor about anger 
management at info@stopbullyingtoday.com . Check the signs that apply to you.

__ You seem to be constantly on edge, irritable, and angry; attempt to resolve 
     problems, but you find no relief.
__ You are physically aggressive and can't seem to stop aggressive impulses. You 
     act before you think.
__ You have difficulty learning from experience. You rely on hitting and grabbing.
__ You exhibit punitive (inflicting punishment) or cruel behaviour towards pets or 
     animals.
__ You lack social behaviours, such as sharing or waiting one's turn. You have few 
     friends or no lasting friendships.
__ You misread social cues. You interpret other children's behaviour as hostile. 
     You think, for instance, that because another youth looks at you, the youth has 
     bad thoughts about you.
__ You blame others and do not take responsibility for your own role in a conflict.
__ You often argue with adults and defy or refuse to comply with adults' requests.


5. How do I know if I could be violent?

The National School Safety Center 's (2005, National School Safety Center
www.nssc1.org 141 Duesenberg Drive, Suite 11 , Westlake Village , 
California , 91362 (805) 373-9977) checklist of characteristics identifies 
the following behaviors, as possible indicators of a youth's potential for 
harming him/herself or others. For each checkmark, assign 5 points. 
The total score determines a child's predilection for possible violent 
behaviors.

Characteristics 

__ Has a history of tantrums and uncontrolled outbursts.
__ Characteristically resorts to name-calling, cursing, or abusive language.
__ Habitually makes violent threats when angry.
__ Has brought a weapon to school.
__ Has a background of serious disciplinary problems at school and in the 
    community.
__ Has a background of drug, alcohol, or other substance abuse or dependency.
__ Is on the fringe of his peer group with few or no close friends.
__ Is preoccupied with weapons, suspended, or expelled from school.
__ Displays cruelty to animals.
__ Has little or no supervision and support from parents or a caring adult.
__ Has witnessed or suffered abuse or neglect in the home.
__ Has been bullied by peers or by older children.
__ Tends to blame others for difficulties and problems he causes himself.
__ Consistently prefers TV show, movies, or music expressing violent themes 
     and acts.
__ Prefers reading materials dealing with violent themes, rituals, and abuse.
__ Reflects anger, frustration, and the dark side of life in school essays or 
     writing projects.
__ Is involved with a gang or an antisocial group on the fringe of peer acceptance.
__ Is often depressed and/or has significant mood swings.
__ Has threatened or attempted suicide. 



Assessment Code:
5-20 points: Youngster is potentially at risk for juvenile misbehaviour.
25-50 points: Youngster is at risk and needs significant amount of positive support, 
mentoring, role Modeling and skill building.
55 points and above: Youngster is at an explosive stage. The child and immediate 
family are at risk.
Seek help from social and health services other youth service professionals, and 
law enforcement.
You can contact STOP Bullying Today at info@stopbullyingtoday.com  for contact 
information.

6. What are some signs that some is being bullied?

If you or someone you know is exhibiting some of the signs below please contact 
us at info@stopbullyingtoday.com

__ Inventing mysterious illnesses to avoid school
__ Missing belongings or money
__ Clothes torn or damaged
__ Unexplained cuts, bruises, and scratches
__ Sleeping problems
__ Bedwetting
__ Irritability
__ Poor Concentration
__ Unexpected changes in routine
__ Problems with school work, etc.

7. How can I STOP bullying?

By using the STOP acronym …it is both the steps to avoid being a victim and is 
also the message that Bullying has to be stopped altogether.

STOP Prevention Method
S – Stay Away (from bullies and bad situations)
- avoid where bullies are
- be sure teachers and other adults can see you
- try to always walk to and from places with someone

T – Tell Someone
- talk to someone you trust
- tell them: what happened, who did it, where it happened, what you did about it 
  and if anyone witnessed it

O – Overcome Fear
- believe in yourself
- don't act scared
- don't fight back
- don't get angry

P – Positive Relationships
- true friends – look out for one another
- positive relationships – people don't deliberately try to hurt you
- join clubs, teams, volunteer etc. and find friends that share your interests 

8. Is it my responsibility to help someone who is being bullied?
Everyone needs to develop the moral instinct to make a stand to STOP Bullying.
There are 3 general roles (and many more specific roles) of the by-stander: 

1."Involved" by-stander:  this individual encourages and includes themselves 
within the bully situation therefore taking the side with the bully.
2. "Ignoring" by-stander:   this individual is aware of the situation but chooses 
to not get involved this may be due to fear of personal retaliation or just to busy 
to worry about it....some also may believe that the individual deserves what is 
coming in one way or another.
3. "Stand-Up" by-stander:   This individual has the moral instinct to defend 
and not let any individual be taunted or physically harmed by anyone. This 
individual is willing to expose the bully.  The number of individuals who fall 
under this category is lessoning all the time due to fear of consequences.

9. What are some basic steps to conflict resolution?

Sometimes it takes time for young people to learn how to handle their feelings 
assertively, versus aggressively.
One of the keys is to understand that everyone's feelings are important. 
Collaboration is the best way to resolve a conflict, and you have to listen to each 
other to define the problem and clarify each party's interests and/or concerns.

Conflict resolution steps:
•  Identify the issues
•  Figure out how each person contributed to causing the dispute.
•  What are you willing to do to resolve this problem?
•  Concessions (give and take) are necessary on both parts.
•  Ask yourself, “What do we want or need to resolve this situation?”


Why do I need a community team?

We truly believe that it takes a community as a whole to help any youth. With a 
strong team to help you your ability to achieve success is greater. A community 
team can consist of many different individuals or Organizations.These are the 
individuals or organizations you will rely on during signs of trouble.

An example of community team members:
•  Parents
•  Teachers
•  Police
•  Help Lines
•  Block Parent Homes
•  Representative of your church or a church near by

Please print out the Community Form form and complete to have your community 
team information readily available: CLICK HERE TO PRINT

STOP Bullying Today is inviting youth to make a commitment to STOP Bullying:

As part of my community ……I AGREE:

• To be a part of the STOP Bullying Today solution.
• Eliminate taunting from my own behaviour.
• Agree to not be a bystander, but to stand up for others.
• Do my part to make my community a safe place.
• Set the example of a caring and moral individual.
• Eliminate profanity towards others from my language.
• Not let my words or actions hurt others….

…..and I will encourage others to also make this commitment.

What is Cyber Bullying?

Cyber Bullying consists of:

•  Chat rooms.......•  MSN.........•  Text Messages

Cyber Stats

•  14% of Canadian Youth have been threatened by instant messaging

•  16% admit to posting hateful comments

•  99% of Canadian students use the internet

•  Nearly 60% use chat rooms and instant messaging

10 Safety Rules for On-line

•  Never give out personal information on-line about yourself or anyone else without parent's permission.

•  Never agree to meet anyone you meet on-line without your parent's permission.

•  Never enter a chat room without parent's permission.

•  Never tell anyone on-line where you will be or what you are doing without permission.

•  Never send emails or respond to new people you meet on-line.

•  Never go into a new site that costs money without parent's permission.

•  Never send pictures of yourself or others without parent's permission.

•  Never use a credit card or other types of purchases without parent's permission.

•  Never respond to anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.

•  Always tell your parents about something you may have seen intentionally or not that upsets you.

“Youth Empowering Students” Program

Interested in Learning Video Production?

Do you want to take “Action” to STOP Bullying?

Starting in 2007, Selected Youth will participate in a full scale video production showing the views and stories of individuals involved in various types of bullying situations. The youth will have hands on skills training in all aspects of video production

Project Benefits:

•  Educational and skills training for participants

•  Educational and engaging for youth watching the video during presentations

•  Video clips can be used in promo video to create awareness of the cause

•  Creating an enjoyable environment for youth to develop a social conscience

•  Youth will develop a sense of positive self worth

•  Ability to acquire volunteer hours for graduation

•  Upon successful completion of the project, candidates will receive a certificate of achievement from STOP Bullying Today.

Acronym: words formed from the initial letters of a multi-word name
Assertive: declare strongly, insist upon
Aggressive: unprovoked attack; hostile activity
Anger: strong emotion excited by a real or supposed injury; wrath rage
Bully: one who hurts, persecutes, or intimidates weaker people
Bystander: one who stands near; a spectator; one who has 
no concern with the business tansacting
Collaboration: work with another on a project
Commitment: pledge, promise
Communication: give or exchange information
Community: body of people with something in common; district 
of residence
Concentration: great and constant diligence and attention
Consequences: result, effect, outcome; that which naturally 
follows
Concessions: to grant or allow things
Conflict: struggle, trial of strength; disagreement
De-prejudicing: the ability to be objective of an issue or 
situation
Empathy: understanding another's feelings
Encourage: inspire with hope
Fear: unpleasant emotion caused by coming evil or danger
Listen: pay close attention to
Mediation: negotiation to resolve differences conducted by 
some impartial party
Overcome: conquer, make powerless
Positive: certain, absolute, without question
Predilection: a strong liking to something
Profanity: showing lack of respect in vulgar speech or action
Resolution: finding a solution to a problem
Relationships: connection between things, act of relating
Respect: courteous regard for other peoples feelings and 
property
Safe: free from danger or risk of harm
Stop: bring to a halt; prevent; interrupt; suspend; desist 
from; cease
Team: associated in activity
Trust: confidence, firm belief, rely on
Victim: person or thing killed, injured; result of another's 
deed, or accident, circumstances